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A. SEXUAL PROBLEMS
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B.
COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS |
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1. Lack of sexual
desire |
1.
Don't feel close to partner |
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2. Infrequent or no
orgasm |
2.
Rarely alone with partner |
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3. Pain during
intercourse |
3.
Partner complains/criticizes |
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4. Vagina too tight
for penetration |
4.
Don't love partner |
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5. Ejaculate too soon
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5.
Partner doesn't love me |
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6. Difficulty
maintaining erection |
6.
Partner is impatient and irritable |
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7. No ejaculation
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7. We
spend too little time communicating |
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8. Disagreement over
how sex occurs |
8.
Nothing to talk about |
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a. Too little
foreplay |
9.
Intellectual gaps |
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b. Partner crude in
approach |
10.
Topic or type of conversation |
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c. Oral sex
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11.
Partner is unhappy and depressed |
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d. Anal sex
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12.
We argue, bicker, and pick |
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d. Positions
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13.
Arguing which ends in abuse/violence |
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9. Frequency of sex
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14.
Ex-partner |
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10. Disagreement over
when sex occurs |
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11. Cheating |
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12. Internet Porno |
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C.
FINANCIAL PROBLEMS |
D.
PARENTS AND IN-LAWS |
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1.
Too little money |
1.
Incessant talking on phone to others |
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2.
Partner's job |
2.
How often parents/in-laws visit |
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3.
Partner's hours |
3.
How often to visit parents/in-laws |
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4.
Don't trust partner with money |
4.
Borrowing money from parents/in-laws |
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5.
Partner doesn't trust me with money |
5.
Dislike of parents/in-laws |
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6.
Gambling |
6.
Parents/in-laws dislike spouse |
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7.
Conflict over who buys what |
7.
Parents/in-laws try to run spouse's life
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8.
Borrowing |
8.
Parents/in-laws living with couple |
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9.
Excessive debts |
9.
Supporting parents/inlaws |
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E.
RELIGION |
F.
RECREATION |
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1.
Which church to attend |
1. No
sharing of leisure time |
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2.
Partner too devout |
2.
Partner takes separate vacations |
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3.
Partner thinks I am too devout |
3.
Competition between egos in sports |
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4.
Partner not devout enough |
4.
Amount of $ to be spent on vacations |
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5.
Partner thinks I am not devout enough |
5.
Partner doesn't like family vacations |
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6.
Religion to rear children in |
6.
Partner won't vacation if kids not along
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7.
How much money to give to church |
7.
Where to spend vacations |
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8.
Observance of religious holidays |
8.
Partner won't take time for vacation |
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9.
Disagreement over religious rituals |
9.
Disagreement over what is fun |
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10.
Breaking of vows |
10.
Partner plays video games too much |
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G.
FRIENDS |
H.
ALCOHOL/DRUGS |
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1.
Too few friends |
1.
Partner drinks too much |
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2.
Too many friends |
2.
Marijuana, cocaine, other drugs |
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3.
Different friends |
3.
Partner takes too many pills |
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4.
Confidences to friends |
4.
Amount of money spent on alcohol |
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5.
Friends over for dinner not often enough
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5.
Flirting resulting from too much alcohol
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6.
Friends over for dinner too often |
6.
Alcohol use as bad model for children |
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7.
Don't like partner's friends |
7.
Violence resulting from too much alcohol
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I.
CHILDREN |
CHILDREN CONTINUED: |
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1.
Discipline of children |
8.
Rivalry for children's love |
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2.
Care of children |
9.
Activities children should be involved in
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3.
Time with children |
10.
Sex education for children |
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4.
Number of children |
11.
Temper tantrums of children |
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5.
Spacing of children |
12.
Child abuse |
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6.
Infertility |
13.
Unwanted pregnancy |
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7.
Whether or not to adopt |
14.
Step-children |
