QUESTION: My wife and I are deeply in love and committed to each other. She has met a man with whom she would like to have sex. We are considering a threesome. Your advice?

ANSWER: Be careful. Individuals and couples differ in their ability to experience a threesome positively. If you and your wife have a loving and committed relationship and have a threesome as a "couple" experience, it is possible that you can come out the other side of such an encounter OK. But suppose your wife likes the guy and wants to do it again and you don't...then what? Or, suppose you feel she has had a man, now you'd like to have a threesome with a woman...how will your wife feel about this? Or suppose she wants to meet alone with the dude...catch my drift?

Will watching porno together and having sex with each other satisfy some of your need for adventure?

Bottom line....be careful...talk about it with each other and with the guy...and discuss all possible outcomes....and if you still feel OK look at the positive consequences of NOT having a threesome. Once you have the threesome, you can't unring the bell...you will live with the consequences.