Our social life is nil, he does not go out ever on his own, neither do I as we live in the country, (I work from home), he will not even go to bed on his own before me! We have very little sex life (twice a year and it is unsatisfactory) - he does not interest me. It would be very easy to stay together, but is that fair to him or me - could we both achieve a greater level of happiness and for me regain my vitality, if we were separated.

ANSWER: It is a common plight to stay in a dull marriage or to take a chance on the unknown. Only you can decide. However, only leave your husband if you feel you can survive living alone...since you may not land in a new relationship. Some who left wished they could get back and could not.

Another alternative is to see a marriage counselor together to discover ways to enrich your relationship...take vacations to places of mutual interest, read erotic literature together, consider an X rated video. Do something!