Many people ask themselves after a couple years of marriage where the love has gone - and if it is still possible in this modern age for couples to stay married throughout their lifetime. In 1400 the average woman died around 27 years of age and often it was during childbirth. The average marriage didn't come close to lasting 20 years. Today, however, we are living longer and so facing more challenges. One of the challenges we face is staying married for life. Many people find their marriages in a crisis, and staying married for the kids becomes a common reason.

According to an article in the Mercury News written in 2004 recent research suggests that children of divorce face many more hurdles. It is now believed that children do better in school, have less depression, less marital struggle and longer marriages when they grow up in a house with both biological parents. Staying married for the kids will definitely benefit them going forward, and you and your partner might just work things out along the way.

Mostly you and your spouse probably do love each other. Sometimes tests come along, and the truth of the matter is that if you have children those children put stress on your marriage. Staying married for the kids might not always prove to be easy, but there are several benefits to it.

Most people believe the myth that children bring couples together but in fact 70% of couples polled said that marital satisfaction dropped and didn't return until the kids went to college. Having children and raising a family can be very tough. Rather than give up on your marriage realize that it's just a temporary tough time until your kids are grown up.

Life is better when you are married and you will outlive a lot of those single swingers. Interestingly enough, men have a lower life expectancy than women but married men have a longer life expectancy than single men. If you want to live longer, especially if you're a man, stay married. Also, when couples enter retirement actuarial studies have found that both spouses live longer than their single counterparts. Staying married for the kids might not be the only good reason to give your marriage another chance.

Starting over is tough - and expensive. The road to an improved marriage is paved with bumps, side roads and occasional unmarked twists and turns. In the long run, having someone who knows you and is used to your flaws is of more benefit than hindrance. Too many people nowadays suffer from the Hollywood version of romance - the fairy tale. Well, that is just a fairy tale - not real life.

The road to restoring any marriage is more communication and improved communication skills. Also needed is accepting that no person is perfect and that each brings their own issues to the relationship. There is nothing like a neutral third party who knows how to make marriages work to turn the tables on unhappiness. There are so many reasons to restore a marriage but the real reason is so you are happy and not only staying married for the kids. Take action today so you can begin enjoying your marriage tomorrow.